Feeling little motivation when it comes to work? Everyday activities starting to feel overwhelming? You may be experiencing burnout. What is burnout? How do we see it coming? What are sustainable ways I can help myself and others avoid it in the future? When might burnout occur?

These are all excelent questions we can ask ourselves to ensure we’re prepared to take on this unexpected event.

Burnout can happen when we’ve been going at something too hard for too long. It can happen when we put more on our plate than we what we can actually handle. Unclear expectations in the work or home life and not having clear boundaries with those around you. Not meeting your own needs to fulfill those of external priorities such as work deadlines or our relationships. 

There are 5 distinct stages that follow when you’re on your way to burnoutville. Read about them here: https://www.vetxinternational.com/the-five-stages-of-burnout-spot-the-signs/  

I feel this is a very necessary topic to discuss because since many of us experience this at one point or another. Most of us have also never been taught how to handle an occurrence like this, nor how to recognize its onset.

We’re all told from young ages that being a parent is hard, and of course we knod our heads in acknowledgement to the one telling us- but I think I speak for a lot of women when I say that nothing can actually prepare you for the workload of being a mother.

This whole pandemic situation doesn’t exactly aid with avoiding overwhelming situations. Boundaries become fuzzier with all the time we spend at home nowadays; what’s separating work from home, personal relationships with other relationships. Take me for example. It’s currently 10:53 pm on a Wednesday night. Should I probably be doing something else like relaxing, sleeping? Absolutely. But hey… moms don’t have much freetime along the day to pursue other hobbies.

Journaling

Journaling isn’t just something meant to be a pretty post on Pinterest for people to admire. Journaling is a tool for you to dump your brain out onto something physical. When you write something down on paper, it makes it more concrete. It’s so easy for thoughts and emotions to dwindle up inside our minds and fester into something bigger than it actually is. Writing it down in a journal is such a calming and meditative way to get yourself organized and help yourself make logical decisions rather than solely emotional. Just try it. Even if you’re not sure where to start, just focus on the moment.

Write down the very first word that pops into your head. Write down what the very first thing was that you did in the morning. Write what you’re feeling in this very moment. Go on, grab a pen and paper. Oh- and actually, it’s important you actually write with a pencil/pen and paper. It significantlly reduces stress levels when you’re physically writing rather than typing from a phone or computer.

​​“Journaling is like whispering to one’s self and listening at the same time.” – Mina Murray, Dracula

The right people

Being surrounded and supported by the right kind of people will make all the difference. It’s detrimental to surround yourself with those that fill you with energy, not drain you from it. Certain energies people emit have more affect on us than we like to think. Take notice of who you’re around when you feel elated and who you’re around when you feel lethargic.

Take the help when offered

I bet we all have this one in common: not always accepting help when it’s offered.

I’ll say from first hand experience that accepting help isn’t the easiest thing. Something I’ve come to learn in my whopping 20 years on this earth (catch the sarcastic tone?) is that you’ll get where you want to much quicker when you accept help. Keep this in mind as well- if one of your friends or family are offering you their hand, don’t you think it’s because they genuienly want to help?

Boundaries

Physical, emotional, and financial boundaries are very important ones in terms of this topic. If we’re constantly pushing aside our own boundaries to accomodate the needs of others, we’ll forsure find ourselves burning out much faster. Getting to know yourself better, too, will help you better understand what accomdates your person and protects your aura.

It’s okay to say no. It’s a great feeling to be in a position to help the people in your circle, and you absolutely should– but it’s also okay to say no sometimes, or “another day”. We can’t fill other peoples’ cups if ours are empty.

Remain Mindful

Mindfulness isn’t just something meant for the monks to do. No, mindfulness should actually be a normal practice that everyone could be taking part in. It’s not this complicated but because today’s society is so fast paced and constantly moving, we easily look passed and negelct it. Remaining mindful is meant to ground us in the present moment. Locking us into what’s real and in front of us since we spend most of our time in our head, where most things are false.